Somebody should have known better. Now you don't trust they care.
THE MOMENT PASSES. THE MISERY DOES NOT
Don't let a Should-Know-Better become a conflict that leaves you stuck in misery, unable to have a conversation and move on.​​
Clear The Air Without Blame Or Shame.
BURP
Care-In-Action conversations to bare what we know, need, and care about, together not better.
"Being BURPED opened my heart and mind to THE question that became the segue into our healing as a family. And, for this, I'll be forever grateful..."
TWO YEARS OF FAMILY RECKONING. ONE HOUR CONVERSATION.
How I came to BURP
Hello, I'm Gretchen
For over 30 years, I’ve had a one-hour conversation with more than 4,000 people who thought they Should-Know-Better because they couldn’t pick a paint color. I helped them know what they need and trust themselves to confidently paint what they love, without blame or shame. It worked 99% of the time. Then I began to wonder if it would work without the bucket of paint. It did.
Proof of Care
It’s a baby-proof world.
"Feelings are not needs."
A baby’s misery tells us there is an unmet need.
We look for it.
There’s air stuck.
We burp the baby.
The need is met, and the misery lifts.
That relief is proof of care. Somebody knew what to do and cared enough to do it, without the baby having to explain. We grow up expecting people to know better and care.
With needs met, babies have room for curiosity, playfulness, and connection. Their sense of security lays a foundation for communicating, thinking critically, creating, and solving problems. Meeting needs comes first. Our capacity to engage with life grows from there.
As adults, when somebody should have known better and didn’t, we lose trust and confidence that they care. We switch back into baby mode—miserable and unable to express what we need, even though we have words.
BURP brings us back to the unmet need. Being entitled to our feelings does not discover or meet the need behind them. BURP gives us the language to discover and communicate what needs to be known, understood, or done to restore trust and confidence.
When we meet the need and BURP the misery, we have room again to be curious, connect, create, and move forward.
That is Care-In-Action.
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9 SEATS AT THE TABLE
Misery will not be served at the table this year.
The BURP Parlez Salon
CLEAR THE AIR. KNOW BETTER, CARE TOGETHER.
Proof-of-Care Conversations To know together, and actually do better.
Clear the air.
Bring a Should-Know-Better conflict you can’t get past.
Know better.
Discover the unmet need beneath the misery—and what you need to know and communicate.
Do better together.
Turn that knowing into a Care-In-Action plan to meet your needs for trust and confidence.
BURP OFFERINGS
THE DAYLIGHT LIBRARY
The Research Behind BURP
Books and studies that back up what babies already know, ranked by how strong the proof is.
BURP TROVE
BURP PARLEZ SALON
Knowing From Root to Fruit
Care-In-Action
Practice
Navigate the world from a place of knowing, belonging, becoming, and baring your knowing.
90-Minute BURP Salons
Daily Exercises
I CARE Team Salons​​
I CARE TEAM SALONS