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Somebody should have known better.
Now you don't trust they care.

IT'S AN SKBC.

A SHOULD-KNOW-BETTER-CONFLICT. 
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WELCOME TO

THE BURP
Project

KNOW BETTER. CARE TOGETHER.

Tell them without fear of being wrong, regret, blame, or shame.

"Being BURPED opened my heart and mind to "THE"   question that became the segue to our healing   as  a family. And, for this, I'll be forever grateful..." 

TWO YEARS OF FAMILY MISERY. ONE HOUR CONVERSATION. 

How I came to BURP

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Hello, I'm Gretchen

For over 30 years, I’ve had one-hour conversations with more than 4,000 people who lived with the misery of a Should-Know-Better Conflict because they couldn’t pick a paint color. I coined it an SKBC. They already knew better and cared. They just needed and trust themselves and confidently paint what they love, without fear of regret, blame, shame or being wrong. It worked 99% of the time. Then, I began to wonder if the same conversation would work with a palette of words instead.
It did.

9 SEATS AT THE TABLE

Misery will not

be served at the table this year.

The Parlez Salon

CLEAR THE AIR. KNOW BETTER, CARE TOGETHER.

BURP  C.A.R.E. CONVERSATIONS.

Clear the air.

Bring a Should-Know-Better conflict you can’t get past.

Know better.
Discover the unmet need beneath the misery, and what you need to know. 

Care together.
Make Care-In-Action plan to meet needs for trust and confidence.

The Research Behind BURP

Fruitful Thoughts
Tasty Discourses

Burp C.A.R.E. Conversations

Weekly BURP Newsletter

BURP WITH ME 

UNPACKING AN  SKBC OF THE WEEK TO KNOW BETTER ADN CARE TOGETHER.

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© 2025–2026 Gretchen Schauffler.

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