THE PARLE SALON
In the 17th and 18th centuries, women hosted salons where artists and thinkers shared one table, the heart of the Enlightenment.
I am reviving that table with the same intention, BURP.
HOSTED BY GRETCHEN SCHAUFFLER
Misery will not be served at the table this year.
A Monthly SKBC Workshop on Zoom by Gretchen Schauffler
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Intant Misery Relief From Should Know Better Conflicts.
WITHOUT BLAME OR SHAME.
When someone should know better than to say or do something, and don't, we are riddled with misery.
We can't be around them without letting them know how they made us feel, without blame or shame. For of losing an argument, losing our shit, the relationship or circumstance.
This is how a Should-Know-Better moment becomes a Should-Know-Better Conflict, an SKBC than can last for months, years, even lifetimes.
Are you in the middle of an SKBC right now, maybe one you have held onto for years?
Symptoms May Include: Venting. Rehashing. Repeating. Retreating.
The Language of SKBCs
The sound of misery trapped in someone’s body coming out as blame or shame.
THE LANGUAGE OF
BLAME
They should care but don’t.
I can’t tell them.
They will never change.
Whatever,
I don't care.
THE LANGUAGE OF
GUILT
I never should have said anything.
I can’t believe this happened.
I can’t do this again.
Clearly,
they don't care.
THE LANGUAGE OF
SHAME
They know better than to say that.
I can’t believe they did that.
I mean, everyone else knows.
Clearly,
They don't care.
THE LANGUAGE OF
PRIDE
I would never do that.
I can’t imagine saying that.
Clearly,
they don't
Whatever, I don’t care.
Au. contraire.
WE ARE BORN TO KNOW, BELONG, BECOME, AND BEAR TO CARE.
Destined to care.
We are born expecting others to know better and care about our needs, because for the first decades of our lives, they do. When a baby gets air trapped inside, pressure builds.
They squirm, fuss, cry, and make everyone around them miserable until somebody helps release what they cannot speak or release themselves. Adults do something remarkably similar when somebody should have known better. And don’t.
A Should-Know-Better moment becomes a conflict, an SKBC. They can’t afford to be cry-babies. They tough it out, continue to vent, or suppress for days, months, years, even lifetimes.
Time to Parle, por favor, what we need and know.
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